Wonders of a Chinese Wedding

5 04 2017

One of the most universal events around the world (not surprising, since the God of the universe instituted it), weddings seek to unite two individuals in the presence of their Maker. Yet, throughout time, our cultures influence the styles, traditions, and even the ceremonies into diverse and unique customs. Along with passing the college entrance exam and the birth of a child, marriage ranks very high in the life of a Chinese individual.

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Here is a list of eight interesting and unique thing you may not know about contemporary Chinese dating and weddings:

 

1. Finding Your “True Love”

“A man who chases two rabbits catches neither.” –Chinese Proverb

In the current times, being well-educated is an essential part of Chinese culture, stemming from the Cultural Revolution’s push for higher education. Many parents stress the importance of studying and doing well on tests and insist that it leaves little time to entertain the thought of a boyfriend or girlfriend. Yet, immediately after college, family members start asking–and even setting up blind dates (xiang qin 相亲)–for their recent college graduate.

 

2. Buying the Necessities

“Dig the well before you are thirsty.” –Chinese Proverb

In China, a male that wants to ask for a woman’s hand needs a few things that money can buy. He is generally required to first have bought a house and a car (and possibly pay something like a dowry fee to the female’s family) before he asks for her hand. Additionally, his future family will want to know how much money he earns to make sure that his job is suitable to support the family.

 

3. Choosing a Lucky Day

“To succeed, consult three old people.” –Chinese Proverb

Fortune Teller

Match makers and fortune tellers predict if a female and male will be compatible. They also decide on a “lucky date” for the ceremony. Photo Source

It’s not only important to find someone suitable, but also to get the blessing of the matchmaker. If the matchmaker does not find the birth dates of the two individuals to be compatible according to the Chinese zodiac, they would be unwise (traditionally) to go forth in the process. Additionally, the fortune teller is needed to select a lucky date for the couple to wed.

 

4. Hong Bao 红包: Wedding Gifts

“If you want happiness for a month — get married. If you want happiness for a year — inherit a fortune.” –Chinese Proverb

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“Hong bao” means “red packet” and is usually filled with a large sum of money, something related to the number 8 being preferable.

Money is an especially coveted concept in China, so not only are Chinese weddings elaborate, but the wedding guests do not usually give gifts like westerners. Instead, they give a “red packet” called hong bao, filled with money. It is important to give enough money and to give the right amount of money at a wedding. For example, giving 800¥ ($116) would be acceptable, as the number 8 signifies prosperity or success; where as 250¥ ($36) would be insulting, given that the numbers represent a “stupid person.” Hong bao are also given on birthdays and during Spring Festival.

 

5. Importance of Colors

“An invisible red thread connects those who are destined to meet, regardless of time, place, or circumstance. The thread may stretch or tangle, but will never break.” — Chinese Proverb

The color red has always been an important symbol for China, and this is no less true during weddings. In fact, the colors white and black are often used during funerals, so it is usually inappropriate to wear those colors. However, white dresses in China are becoming increasingly popular due to western influence.

 

6. Making Noise

“To be heard afar, bang your gong on a hilltop.” –Chinese Proverb

Weddings around the world tend to be noisy and joyful. In China, it is common to hear fireworks going off during the day as a sign someone just got married. The purpose of the fireworks is to scare away any monsters or ghosts that would seek to bring bad luck to the newlyweds. Most weddings also hire a middle-aged brass band that will play a slightly-out-of-tune melody in front of the house or the hotel.

 

7. Seeking Her Han: Before the Wedding

“All things are difficult before they are easy.” –Chinese Proverb

One of the most important parts of a Chinese wedding ceremony actually happens the morning of the wedding. Traditionally, family and friends will gather inside and outside the house, munching on snacks, waiting for the bride to get ready, and anticipating the groom and groomsmen’s arrival. Once everything is ready, the bride waits for the groom on her bed (which is usually covered with a symbolic red comforter), while the groomsmen go through a series of tasks that the bridesmaids have set up, ultimately stalling the groom from entering the bedroom. Some possible tasks the groomsmen might face include biting bread into the letters “LOVE”, doing push ups, “breaking down” the door, singing a song, and finding the bride’s red slippers. If they fail, the have to pay the bridesmaids in hong bao. If they succeed . . . they might still have to pay the bridesmaids in hong bao.

 

8. Gan Bei! The Party

“With true friends… even water drunk together is sweet enough.” –Chinese Proverb

And finally, the most anticipated part of the whole process–the meal! You may have thought that Chinese weddings were similar to western weddings, where the ceremony and reception holds the highest importance, but actually, the ceremony is much more private and comparatively insignificant compared to eating and celebrating together (unless it is a Christian wedding, where there will usually be a more public ceremony).

The food is served at the home or a hotel, and is generally lavish and plentiful (think whole fish, lobster, crabs, chicken, and a whole host of fruits and vegetable dishes). While guests are eating, the bride and groom will go around to each table, pouring alcoholic drinks and toasting the guests with the words “gan bei!” which means “cheers!” and signifies that the person will drink the whole glass of alcohol. It is also common to see performances by the bride and groom or close friends, and people don’t always dress up in their “Sunday best” for these events as they do in the west.

 





Chinese Bullets

22 01 2015

China has a vast network of trains that connect cities and people together. The following are a few of the options you can choose when traveling:

D-train: This is a bullet train [shown above], or “Dong che” (pronouced “dong-chuh”), which rides at speeds over 100 miles/hr. Usually a ticket to Hangzhou (ShaoXing’s sister city) will cost around 30¥, or approx. $5 for a 20 minute ride. To give some perspective, a bus or car ride to Hangzhou would take about an hour for almost the same price.

G-train: Named “Gao tie” (pronounced “gah-ow-tee-eh”), this is also a high-speed rail, and the fastest that China offers.

Interior of a G-Train Photo Credit

Interior of a G-Train
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K-Trains are not as new and usually remain above ground, traveling at slower speeds.

K-Trains are not as new and usually remain above ground, traveling at slower speeds.

K-trains: These are older trains that are the slowest, cheapest, not incredibly comfortable, and often run overnight. They have “hard seats” (a normal seat) and “sleepers” (beds).

Hard seats on a K-Train.

Hard seats on a K-Train.